I have been having actual person sex for a few years now, but before that, my greatest fear was cumming too quick. Turns out I last not very long but long enough, and I have my methods to last longer.
If I’m, well, left to my own devices (hand or manual toy) then I can pretty much last as long as I want without any struggle.
However, if I’m using my SSR1, I can go from insert to bust in less than 2 minutes on the average script. Totally unprecedented for me.
I’m trying to figure out exactly what’s happening here. Does it just give more pps (pumps per second) than me? Does the fact it continues without my own action prevent me from using my last-long methods effectively? Even so, why’s it so much quicker than when the real thing is riding on it? Does my endurance in the bedroom only come from my anxiety of interacting intimately with another human? Am I somehow sexually attracted to my toy in a way that exceeds that of my attraction to humans? Does anyone have any more monster-girl scripts/videos that aren’t listed on the tag?
Just curious if anyone has any similar thoughts or observations. Thankings!
From what I can tell two main things determine your time to burst for the day or that session. Arousal and focus/distraction, secondary two things are sleeve/onahole and stroke speed.
Arousal
Arousal is the biggest reason I’ve found to be the cause of me going in 5 seconds basically of starting a session or lasting an few hours. Best way to think of it is how hungry/thirsty you are since if you are too hungry or thirsty you won’t care what it is you’ll consume it and worry less about taste or taking your time with it. Meanwhile if your barely hungry/thirsty you don’t really care until time passes or you smell good food that you then start to feel hungry/thirsty.
So you want to start a session when you aren’t actually that hyped up or wanting to do it alongside with not having seen anything sexual for the last few hours.
Focus/distraction
Focus or distraction I also think play a bit part is tied in a way to arousal since if you focus is on the device and the video playing that’s only two things I am focusing my body/mind on, making it so I notice everything more and get more easily aroused from it. Where as if you have multiple things to focus on like an puzzle or even writing up an email/document/reply on these forums you are then splitting up your focus onto an extra thing and so notice the video/device less and your arousal increases slower. Does also mean that you can notice a bit too late that your too relaxed and then burst without a chance to hold it back.
I’ve found that game integrations are best for this since you can get absorbed into the game itself and if it’s paced well then you’ll have plenty of chances to enjoy the scripts and action while the filler movements keep you hard.
Sleeve/onahole
Now then sleeve/onahole also plays a part since well your hand doesn’t have much texture to it compared to some while are made specifically to cause pleasure or just make you burst. So getting the right sleeve/onahole is key which you’ll have to find for yourself as to what is good while not being on the level of a thousand licks on you from just moving it in one direction slightly. Changing to thicker lubes does help with making an sleeve/onahole be less attacking however it doesn’t solve the core problem, only helps to negate it.
Stroke Speed
Finally stroke speed, which you already have suspicions about from your post. I’ve found with my SR6 that if I let it go at it’s max stroking speed I last a lot less than I would if I limited it to roughly 0.460-0.480 ish. (I believe 0.500 is the same as the Handy)
You can test out if stroke speed is something that affects you by finding a script with a edging or just full speed stroking section for roughly 30 seconds or more. Go through it once unlimited and then again with the speed limited (after a bit of an break) and you’ll probably notice the difference it makes.
Doing stroke speed limiting does come with two noticeable problems however, first being that it shortens stroke height as strokes get cut short so the device doesn’t fall behind the script, the second and more annoying is that you prevent scripts with vibrations from working properly since vibration movements occur usually from having high speed mini strokes together…speed limiting prevents that.
As a result I personally turn on and off limitations on stroke speed depending on how close I think I am to bursting and if I know if any vibrations are in the script. (I use MFP)
Side note
I’m just going to mention that when your using your hand or a manual toy you can easily change the pace/speed and pleasure you receive, making it easier to last longer. Additionally you don’t have to worry about slipping out of the sleeve/onahole and adjusting stroke height if you get a bit soft as you switch from one video to another since you can adjust in the moment quite easily and regain your hardness. As a result you can go for hours on end if you control yourself well and have enough material to keep you aroused. I believe my record has been 14-ish hours and yes I had a blue ball feeling despite bursting since it was a length of time I hadn’t done prior (my previous was 12 hours), didn’t intend to go for that long but I did.
Now then I'll go through your question blob:
- Does it just give more pps (pumps per second) than me?
The SSR1 easily surpasses what you can do with your hand especially since it can just keep going while you will tire and slow down.
- Does the fact it continues without my own action prevent me from using my last-long methods effectively?
Yes it does because of your focus being less split on doing stuff you focus on the action and stuff at hand which arouses you more easily.
- Even so, why’s it so much quicker than when the real thing is riding on it?
Having someone actually do cowgirl on you is different to a machine since the machine will precisely do it the same way every time. Meanwhile a person won’t be able to do that not will they be able to do all their movements at a very fast speed for very long. A person can do more things than a machine can yes, but the machine can do what it can do for much longer and at generally a high limit than a person can.
- Does my endurance in the bedroom only come from my anxiety of interacting intimately with another human?
Partially since it’s another thing that is distracting you from what is going on that arouses you. It’s why you see in hentai or manga the male characters try to distract themselves by thinking of something not arousing, it does help and it s funny point.
- Am I somehow sexually attracted to my toy in a way that exceeds that of my attraction to humans?
This is a bit more tricky to answer…as it depends on circumstances…however one thing to keep in mind is that attraction to humans isn’t just about looks, it’s also about personality and how you actually mix with that person. Sex is only one thing you can do with another person, but it isn’t everything.
An sex toy is an way to make sex or masturbation less samey and boring, but it won’t do things without it being programed to do so or you prompting it to. It can be used by another person to spice up sex though, doesn’t have to be just you that controls it.
- Does anyone have any more monster-girl scripts/videos that aren’t listed on the tag?
I’ll leave this to someone else to answer as I don’t currently have anything popping into my head for this that isn’t tagged.
Hope this has helped in some way or another especially with letting you know…yes you aren’t alone in this.
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PS I have heard and need to look into it myself about training PC muscle so you can stop yourself mid burst or as your body attempts to start it. Look up kegal exercises, or stop and start your flow when you go to the toilet instead of just letting it all come out.
Stroker actually improved my bed game a lot by having more endurance than before. In your case there are a lot of reasons why you bust that quickly (and a lot more, just some examples):
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your sleeve has lots of pearls or other stuff on it that stimulate your dick
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You actually are way more horny for the fantasy aspect or for certain stars/scenes/looks/fetishes that happen with those videos that you watch with scripts
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the machine won’t get tired and will keep pumping according to the script and depending on the script with the exact same stroke length and speed for some seconds/minutes which you don’t have with sex or with masturbation
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Death grip if you use your hand, no death grip with sleeves which is actually kinda a point that should improve bed game with people having problems cumming from sex, but seems more like the opposite for you
Pretty much a thing to train. Use slower scripts, work on increasing speeds, hold your cum and train your dick muscles.
I’m approaching 50, so my experience is probably different than yours. I have a Handy hands-free setup, which really helps me relax and enjoy the experience. I tend to need a lot of stimulation to stay hard. That can be lots of motion from the script or my interest in the content - usually both. Reaching climax usually cums comes after focused effort. That’s usually tweaking my nipples for some added stimulation plus one of the scenes that really gets me excited.
Or I take a Viagra a bit beforehand. Then I’m rock hard the whole time. I feel every nub in the Handy sleeve. And as a result I tend to get to the edge much faster whatever the content. I still need to add nipple play to cum, but it is much easier to finish.
I think my record is somewhere between 13-20 hours, it was way too much of a blur at that point lol. I certainly did not plan for that but hey I had fun (I think).
Glad I’m not alone!
Damn bro, and I thought my once record breaking 3 hour session was long 
I fap once a week every saturday. I work in construction for 10 hours every day so I’d say my testosterone levels are pretty high. There are times come mid-week during the day where things get fuzzy in my head with these sudden spikes of aggression where I have to excuse myself and do 10 pushups to calm down, so I guess I should release it more often lmao. But by the time saturday comes you can be damn sure I’m freaking starved.
I always make sure for my session to prepare the scripts going from least intense to the most hardcore. You can do that by taking a quick scroll through all of them in the Script player. From greenest to the most red. Full handsfree setup.
As scripts ramp up in intensity, from my experience what I noticed is that around the 20-30 minute mark as we start going into full red stroke territory, there comes a point at which I can cum, or just try to take a breather, and do quick 10 to 20 clench squeezes that help me get things under control and return to my session. Repeat every time you’re close. That way I’m able to extend it to an hour+. It basically comes down to no matter what speed it’s going at, I’m controlling the constant edge and the point at which I climax by clenching / playing around with my PC muscle. I’m sure I can extend it to hours upon end, but I just get bored and start running out of content so at a specific video I just decide: “Yup, this is the one”.
Of course there are exceptions with arousal / triggers to specific type of content, unexpected and intense script patterns (Darn you, @ckhero ! jk I love your content) and certain ultra-intense scripts that can overload you (bunny 2.2 by bella or any of sol_K’s or ahe’s scripts, [[SWZBHMV] Unitia Fap Hero BPM Change Challenge], Fap Hero Spyral Abyss, among many others) but 9/10 times my session goes like described above.
Another exception is that if I start with hardcore content immediately, then it’s a coin toss: you either get super aroused and cum too quickly, even if you try to control it; or you get too numb to feel anything coming afterwards and have to implement a lot of clenching / breath holding to reach the point of no return.
So my advice would be: start with slow scripts and ramp up. And do A LOT of clenching excercises. There are tons of great ones on Pornhub.
It’s fun as long as have content or something to keep you going, once you run out or the new unseen, oooo, aahhhh, interesting factor goes your risking major blue balls where you then go searching around quickly for something as you start shrinking to the smallest you’ve ever been…hoping to not also end up ruining yourself.
You can build up to it but trust me (manga or hentai comics help a ton or good H games)…you don’t want to jump to that since if you end up with the blue balls feeling from it despite finishing properly you will hate yourself for a few hours and beyond. Also it will be hard for you to do so I’d imagine due to your job needing you to be good to exercise for 10 hours. I would always go for just a quick one rather than leave my place and risk being pent up all day or have random boners all day as a result. Once a week ain’t enough.
But again though that’s as long as nothing changes with your mindset since I’ve changed mine recently and it does annoy me since I use to do daily sessions. However now it’s much rarer like yours are since finding scripted content that is the quality I’ve decided now hits the bar I’ve set instead of whatever is tough…especially as I easily burn my content for months from just going through it two or three times. As a result of the big breaks my arousal easily increases when I find something good and I have the time for it now.